My home is full of love. We are a great wee team. It can feel overwhelming coping with all the everyday things on my own. But I would still prefer it that way as my children and I were not safe with my ex around.
If you feel nervous about going to a group, ask a friend to go with you. It might be hard at first but you will soon realise that you’re not alone in whatever is stressing you out. And it will really help.
It’s really common to feel lonely if you’re the only adult in the household, and when you’re under a lot of stress. When you have children to look after, it can be hard to keep up connections with friends and family:
- Loneliness isn’t necessarily about being alone
- Feeling that you’re on your own with problems like not having enough money to live on or to pay for childcare so you can work can make you feel disconnected from others
- Feeling lonely can make you feel sad, angry or frightened
- It can make you feel like you have failed, or wishing that things had been different
- Some parents think they shouldn’t feel lonely if children are around
These feelings and thoughts can make it difficult to tell others about how you are feeling. See our tips on talking about your feelings in the next section on this page.
- Remember that it’s natural to feel lonely. This doesn’t mean ignoring how you feel. But it can help to realise that it’s a common feeling and that it passes
- Make a plan. Even if you don’t feel like doing it, give it a go. It can help you to see if there’s any pattern to your loneliness: for example, certain times of the day/week. Make a plan for the times when you feel loneliest. For example, what film you can watch or who could you chat to at this time?
- Try to find a way to move through how you’re feeling. Is there someone you can have a chat with by phone or online?
When to see your GP
If feelings of loneliness are overwhelming you and making it difficult to cope, it’s a good idea to speak to your GP or another health professional.
OPFS runs one-to-one, group wellbeing and counselling support in different areas. These are free and they can connect you up with single parents and activities in your area. Find out about our local services.
The Mental Health Foundation has videos and podcasts on general wellbeing which can help you cope with some of the aspects of loneliness.
UK charity Mind has useful information about loneliness and practical tips for coping with loneliness.