Having friends and family in your life
Some of my friends just stopped contacting me when I had my daughter because none of them had children. Suddenly the things we wanted to do at weekends became really different. I hated the thought of going to mums groups or anything like that because I get really anxious about meeting new people. When I finally built up the courage to go to a group, I soon realised that I wasn’t alone and there were lots of other people in the same boat as me. It’s good being able to have a laugh about things and share our experiences. Now I make a point of always being there for my friends, and they’re always at the end of the phone if I’m having a hard day and need a moan. It’s difficult to meet up with friends when you don’t have anyone to help out with looking after your kids but you just have to make the most of it. Even if it’s just cooking dinner together while the kids play, or going for a walk or a drive, or having a big chat while our kids are sleeping.
When you’re in sole charge of children, plus looking after the house, and maybe going out to work, life can be a juggle and a struggle. Having family and friends around you means that there are other adults who can help you out, prop you up and keep you going. Of course, having good friends and family is a two-way thing: you have to be one too.